He Reported Abuse from His Wife
Something That is Uncommon
In early February 2020, I was commissioned by Huffpost to document a case of a male military member who reported abuse from his wife. Their son was also a victim of the case. This story is a part of Huffpost's ongoing series on domestic violence in the military.
To US Navy Petty Officer Jon Stremel being a father is everything. He enjoys taking care of his son Calvin Stremel more than anything else.
The reality for him changed when complications started to appear after facing mental and physical abuse from his wife. Often time, his son went through the trauma more than him. Unforeseen hardship even led them to be homeless.
“It’s just hard to convey like how much this has changed my life. It has taken over my life,” said Stramel.
Things went downhill for Stremel after his wife filed a case against in favor of their son’s custody. According to Stremel, he cares more about getting his son’s custody more than winning other lawsuits filed by his wife.
Stremel thinks Hawaii’s law is biased towards women leading him and his attorney to think that he might lose his case.
Left: Stremel shows a picture of his ex-wife on the staircase in his home. Right: A phone picture shows Strammel’s ex-wife April carrying their son Calvin.
"I am the one who likes being a dad. My wife thinks about work. I stay home with the kid. But when you go to the court in Hawaii they think the opposite. That is very disrespectful," said Stramel.